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Friday Feeling – Self Care

”Please ask yourself daily;What would I do if I weren’t so bloody afraid? And then just do it.”


Take the utmost best care of yourself

I’m introducing a new theme here on the blog – Friday Feeling. A positive feeling or mental habit that we could all benefit from by incorporating it into our daily lives. And what better way to kick it off than with the habit of SELF CARE.

It doesn’t mean you’re selfish when you do things for yourself, or when you take time for the things that make you feel good about yourself. Self care helps you build trust within yourself. You don’t need another person to come and save you; you make yourself happy by being true to yourself and by living by your heart.

When you feel good about yourself you automatically become a happier person. And that happy person will have plenty of love, kindness and energy to give to other people. You’re not the only one who will benefit from taking care of yourself, the people around you will most certainly enjoy your most vibrant self. When you’re kinder to yourself your kindness contaminates the world.


Make a list of things that make you happy.

Make a list of things you do every day.

Compare the lists.

Adjust accordingly.


At the moment my self care mantra goes a bit like this:  ”A handful of curiosity, plenty of creativity and massive confidence fill my heart each and every day.”

For me self care is taking a long, hot bath, writing poetry, taking a long walk with an expensive latte in my hand, enjoying the sea, curling my hair, eating a green smoothie and enjoying a cinnamon bun at the same time, spending time doing nothing if that’s what I feel like in the moment, it’s doing yoga, respecting my body and all that it’s capable of, reading books and embracing everything I’m feeling. It’s loving life, and knowing that life loves me back.


Self care reminders;

  1. Never apologize for how you feel.
  2. Give yourself permission to be where you are, and to still be loved for it.
  3. The way you speak to yourself matters. Be impeccable with your words.
  4. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
  5. Let your soul glow.
  6. Fall in love with taking care of yourself – Body, mind & soul.
  7. Know that you deserve the best, and nothing less.
  8. Every once and a while take a break from your own thoughts.
  9. Life is a gift wrapped up in red ribbons. Remember that every day you wake up. The biggest gifts of them all. Take care of it. Use it wisely.
  10. Stop saying yes to shit you hate. Life is too short.



you carry so much love in your heart.

give some. to yourself.

– r.z.




”Let’s run away to Paris. Pretend the world is beautiful, love is the answer, drink hot cocoa and never wake up from our dream.”


my soul fell in love

with your soul

the moment she felt it

i told her


she smiled,

and replied




during the darkest

of nights he wishes

upon a star

yet he hasn’t found

anyone as

bright as her

trillions of stars

in the universe

but none like her



two broken souls

refusing to give up

on each other



it’s when you welcome

sadness you truly

learn how to

appreciate the moment

cause then,

and only then,

you’ll find happiness

longing to embrace

you with open arms


Killing time

”…and he knew she was much more than a sentence. she was the entire storyline. the unwritten ending.”


Looking for a way to kill time? Write.

”Write hard and clear about what hurts.” – Ernest Hemingway

Or just write whatever comes to your mind. Do whatever floats your boat; spend your precious time wisely. Focus on what makes you happy. Focus on being brave. Recognize the little voice in your head that says you can’t do it. Get rid of self-doubt. Dear human, you can do anything. Have faith in yourself. Be confident. You might feel scared. Alone. That’s totally fine. You’re human. But remember, you’re never alone with a sky full of stars. Fall deeply, madly in love with yourself. With your life. And the world will fall deeply, madly in love with you.

Some things you better not ever forget. 



in every one of his dreams

she exists

and with the sun

she disappears



she laughs

and he knows

the world needs

more of her



their goodbye became

the most beautiful hello



Paint Your Words

”Meet me at midnight underneath the stars. I’ll bring my books and you’ll bring your heart.”



she loves too deep

in a shallow world



the midnight sky

turned her into

a wildly creative


just as her smile

turned him into

a dangerously naive




her smile may be sweet

her gaze may be innocent

her acts may be the kindest

the world ever experienced

she may be the face

you can’t forget

but that soul

that soul is nothing but

pure lust

deep within

lies a dark, deep

intense desire

how dare you


a flaming fire



come closer.

pay attention,

and you’ll notice

the tears in her eyes

are actual stars.



some call it love

others call it pain

he calls it her



time stands still

in moments

your heart dies



from all of the chaos

a flower started to blossom



dreaming of her

is his great escape



with her

he is his most powerful self





Dear January…

… you’re beautiful just as you are, with or without snow.

”The light within her is precious. Brightens up every cold, dark heart. Come closer. Pay attention, and you’ll notice the tears in her eyes are actual stars.”


January is for growing. Taking one step at a time. Day by day. Believing in oneself. Never neglecting one’s true passions. Coming alive. Feeling grateful. The sun is out.

There’s always something to be grateful for. Life. Dear human, be grateful for life.

This January is all about confidence, curiosity and creativity. Three magic C’s. The time is now. The now is all you have. It’s about soft and tender snowflakes dancing along fast paced footsteps. Choose to dance. Choose to laugh. It’s your choice. It’s your life. Grow. It’s about taking action, those dreams won’t happen unless you do.

Allow yourself to be scared. To not have all the answers. Be curious anyway. Let your inner being shine through. Life is damn precious. Every nanosecond is a miracle on this roller coaster. Don’t you understand you have to live? Don’t just be. Thrive, blossom and believe. It’s about being strong. A smile doesn’t always mean you’re happy, sometimes it simply means you’re strong. And you are. Strong and filled with hope.

Dear January, I welcome you. You might be cold. You might be dirty and grey, however, there’s always a burning light within our everlasting hearts.


Believe, and you will receive

”I’m not a teacher, babe, but
I can teach you something
Not a preacher, but
We can pray if you wanna
Ain’t a doctor, but
I can make you feel better
But I’m great at writing physical love letters…”

– Beyonce

I’ve been thinking about goals a lot lately, and how I always seem to struggle with getting them down on paper or making them more clear. (Read this post about 101 lifetime goals where I talk about the difference between goals and dreams.)

I’m starting to realise why I have such a problem with thinking about my goals; It has a lot to do with my insecurities – I actually thought that I can’t achieve them. I didn’t believe I could. I didn’t even think I was worthy or that I would have enough experience or skills. But, of course I can! Of course I’ve all the experience I need! I am exactly where I need to be right now. And I’m worthy. We all are worthy of achieving our biggest dreams and goals.

If you’ve found yourself stuck in negative self talk it’s about time that you start changing your thought patterns. We all have goals, but if you don’t think you can reach them, if you don’t believe in yourself, then they most likely will end up as merely dreams.

I’ve come up with a list that might make the journey towards loving yourself, and believing in yourself and all that you’re capable of, a bit easier;

How to start believing in yourself

  1. Forgive yourself for making mistakes. 
  2. Surround yourself with people that encourage you, and that see your true potential.
  3. Stop dwelling in the past, and stop worrying about the future; Breathe in the moment.
  4. It’s not what you do or have. It’s what you feel.
  5. Have patience. Don’t force things to happen, trust that they will unfold as they’re meant to unfold. There’s a time and place for everything. 
  6. Find what you’re good at, and like doing, and dedicate time to it each and every day.
  7. Look inside. Don’t compare yourself to other people’s lives.
  8.  Appreciate what you have.
  9. Challenge yourself – don’t be afraid to fail. It’s through trial & error you learn.
  10. See every setback as an opportunity to learn and grow.
  11. Be honest to yourself, and others.
  12. Don’t be afraid of the unknown.
  13.  Trust your gut.
  14. Take care of your health.
  15. Don’t let your happiness depend on anything outside yourself.



Motivational Mantras


She possesses a peaceful confidence that screams power. She is humble, but fierce. She is stable, with a rebellious soul. She is loving, but far from naive. She chooses her struggles wisely, cause she always knew what she wanted. Dangerously intelligent she’s prepared to fight. And when that time comes;fight she does.


I haven’t yet written down any actual goals for 2018. At least not any clear and precise ones. But what I’ve done is that I’ve written down how I want to feel 2018. I think that is as important as setting goals; If you know how you want to feel when you travel through life the things you want, need and long for the most will come to you more effortlessly.

Why do you want to achieve certain things? Why are they important to you? Is it just because you want to impress others, or do you want to impress yourself, improve yourself?

I’ve written down 9 life mantras that I will strive to live by this year. I’ve already been incorporating these thoughts during the past months, but I feel I need to take them more seriously – and what better way to start than writing them down.

Motivational Mantras


  1. ”Life doesn’t happen to me, it happens for me.”
    Everything that happens to you happens for a reason. You can either see every setback as something negative or you can choose to see it as a chance to grow, and to get to know yourself better. To be grateful for everything you’ve been through, cause it has made you who you are. Sometimes a negative situation happens cause it’s the universe’s way of giving you the wake-up call you so desperately need. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
  2. ”I’m right where I need to be in order to get to where I want to go.”
    Trust the process. Trust that you’re exactly where you need to be. Be patient, and know that you can’t rush something you want to last forever.
  3. ”Life is a playground, and shouldn’t be taken too seriously. Enjoy the ride!”
    Life is meant to be enjoyed. Don’t waste your life feeling sorry for yourself. Life is amazing and you’re part of it. Take every chance you get to do the things that make you come alive. It doesn’t have to be anything huge; if you like to play the piano – play the piano, if you like to feed the poor – feed the poor, if you like to write – write. Don’t complicate things. And remember to smile. To laugh. Life should be enjoyed with pure bliss.
  4. ”Kill them with kindness.”
    Kindness is power. There’s too much hatred, jealousy and negativity floating around already, we don’t need more of that. The world needs more kindness. Be kind to people although they might treat you bad – they have their own struggles. And remember, nothing a person says or do is because of you, it’s always because of them. A person that is happy and content with life doesn’t speak badly about another person. Show love to the people who treat you bad, they are probably the ones that need it the most. Remember, it requires a very strong human to be kind in every situation. Being kind doesn’t mean you’re weak; You’re above the insecurity, the hate, the jealousy. When you’re sure about yourself, confident within yourself, kindness will easily shine through you.
  5. ”I can achieve anything I set my mind to.”
    If you want something bad enough you make sure you’ll get it, one way or the other. You fight for it. You work hard, and you don’t give up when it gets tough. Because baby, it will. It will most likely get tough as hell.
  6. ”The now is wow.”
    The present moment is all you got. Stop complaining about your past, the negative things that happened to you. They don’t define you. When you learn to appreciate the present moment you’ll start to live life to its fullest. Know that there’s hope in the future. All these wonderful things that will come to you. You just have to be open to receiving them.
  7. ”The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”
    Sometimes when I think about the things I’d like to achieve the feeling of powerlessness comes over me. It feels that the dreams are too far away. In those situation the best thing to do is to take it step by step. Every small step counts. Sometimes you just have to start and see where it will take you.
  8. ”Don’t be like the rest of them, darling.”
    Comparing yourself to others is the quickest way to hell. You’ll never feel satisfied if you practise comparison. Instead think about your unique traits. How can you improve your strengths? How can you become even better at what you’re doing? You might have to gain more knowledge, to work harder. Practise the things you’d like to get better at.
  9. ”Life happens outside of my comfort zone.”
    I’ve decided to take my gym and training philosophy outside the gym. Meaning that when I think I can’t do anymore, when I think I’ve had enough that’s when the growth will come. That’s when the magic starts to happen. You won’t grow if you train the same day after day, lift the same weights, do the same reps. You’ve to challenge yourself. It’s through the challenges you grow, both mentally and physically.

Goodbye 2017

”The best view comes after the hardest climb.”


Every day you should learn something new. Every year you should grow. I’ve never considered New Years Eve like a time to start over, however, this year I see it as the most perfect day to leave everything that do not serve me behind, and believe that everything do happen for a reason. It’s not what happens to us that defines us, it’s our response to what happens. And response is something we can choose.

Everything I’ve been through has made me who I am

2017 has been one of the toughest years ever, nevertheless, I feel I’ve grown tremendously. 2017 was the year I became more aware. I’ve learned to become more mindful, more present. And most importantly, I understand that I can always trust my intuition. I can trust myself, and all I’m capable of. I know I’m unique – we all are. I know I was meant to inspire other humans, I might not know exactly how, but I know that everything will eventually fall into place. It’s through hardship you learn to appreciate life, it’s how you get to know thyself.

I’ve learned a lot about myself this year. I’ve learned how important it is to be grateful. I’ve learned how important is is to show kindness. To forgive. And to forget. I’ve learned to be true to myself, express my emotions and not be afraid to be. To be me.

I know that success is something we all have inside of us. We just have to dig deep, learn to love ourselves, the good and the bad.

I’ve struggled with low self-esteem, compared myself with others. Been listening to my negative thoughts, over and over again. When I woke up this morning I had this strange feeling. I felt at peace. It felt like all the negativity had left my body over night. I felt reborn. I now know I’m perfect, just as I am. I don’t have to be anyone else. I’m perfect – we all are.

I know I want to encourage people to believe in themselves. I want to be able to inspire everyone to dare to dream big. To never lose hope. We’re all perfectly imperfect humans. We all make mistakes, we live and we learn. It’s life, and it’s beautiful, not only when it’s flawless.

I’m grateful for you 2017, although you put me to the test. You thought me how to be a strong human. You made me understand that I’m capable of achieving anything.

I know I’m exactly where I need to be, here, surrounded by love ❤


Sweet breakfast porridge

This is a deliciously sweet porridge recipe that satisfies every sweet tooth. Perfect as breakfast on New Years Eve or New Years Day.

I’m a huge fan of nutella and porridge. They marry very well together. Feeding my soul.

A simple recipe, yet extremely tasty. I recommend you to try it out ❤

Creamy steel cut oats with vegan nutella


1.5 dl gluten free steel cut oats

3 dl unsweetened almond milk

1 tbsp chia seeds

Salt & cinnamon


Vegan chocolate hazelnut spread, maple syrup & hemp seeds


  1. Cook the oats in almond milk on low heat until creamy.
  2. Add chia seeds, salt & cinnamon.
  3. Eat with maple syrup, vegan nutella and hemp seeds. 



Dear 2018

… You are like a newborn relationship. Exciting and deeply treasured.

”Life is uncertain. Life is beautiful. Accept where you are, and be proud. But most of all be kind. Always be kind to yourself, fellow humans, the planet and the animals. You have one body. We have one Earth. Show respect, kindness and courage. Life may be uncertain, but we all got a chance of making something beautiful out of it. Be bold, take the chance.”

Dear 2018, I heart you. I heart you like I heart the beauty of nature. The sound of the ocean, the whispers in the wind, the calmness of the forest. The sky so endless it makes us believe everything is possible. I believe the sun will set every night, I believe the sun will rise every morning. How can there not be magic with a nature so magical?

Welcome! I look forward to getting to know you. Together we can achieve anything, darling friend.

Darling lover, life begins now.


never rush something you want to last forever.


Excerpt from my ebook “SHE IS BEAUTIFUL, BUT FOR HOW LONG.” 

Buy my ebook here.